Cure for the Self-Centered Life

“Do nothing from selfish ambition or conceit, but in humility count others more significant than yourselves. Let each of you look not only to his own interests, but also to the interests of others” – Philippians 2:3-4
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This is who we’ve become

Self-centeredness is human default mode; we love ourselves. We care too much about our interests. We demand our space. No one dares get in the queue before us.

In all of these, we love the praise and compliments of others.

We cherish the gain more than the process. We’d do anything to reap the rewards without the journey. We are wired to be present only where we’re adored, where we stand elevated and applauded by others.

We are miserable even by our own standards.

Did you just try to defend yourself. Don’t bother, it’s no use. We are all in the same boat. We are selfish people. All of us. This is who we’ve become.

But we weren’t made for this

Man wasn’t created to be this way though. The fall brought about a deep depravity that resulted in all kinds of sinfulness and moral failures in man, one of which is the self-centered, “me-myself-and-I” life.

Paul does well to remind us of the God-intended life and specifically to avoid selfish ambitions or significance. I regularly pinch myself on this one. I’m an ambitious person but the moment my ambitions threaten to overshadow my faith and true purpose, it becomes selfish and sinful.

We weren’t made for this, and remaining self-ward becomes a tragedy because:

Selfish ambitions and self-centeredness deny us the opportunity to experience God at work in others. Share this with others.

Cure for the self-centered life

When we are so into ourselves, we cannot be channels of blessing to others; we cannot reach others with the gospel of grace, we cannot touch lives, we cannot influence people.

The cure for selfishness is really simple. In fact, it’s so simple you might slap yourself (please don’t!) when you realise numerous missed opportunities. And this is it:


Quit looking at yourself for a moment. Put the mirror aside and look through the window. Deny yourself.

There are no better words to capture this truth than “in humility count others more significant than yourselves.” – Philippians 2:4.

Giving are sharing are both liberating and joy-infusing. The flesh doesn’t want to let go but your spirit now has a new appetite. Your time, resources and skills aren’t yours but God’s. So release yourself and become a conduit of grace in the hands of the Holy Spirit.

In the process, you are guaranteed not only to become less selfish but to discover the true meaning of purpose; your purpose.

Question: In addition to giving, how else has God helped you become less self-centered? Share in the comments. 

P.S. This Saturday, I’ll be hosting university and college students at the second Success Masterclass Program in Essen and we’re inspiring and challenging ourselves to live with purpose practically. The students are excited. Please pray for us.

About Joseph Iregbu

I'm a writer, purpose guy, speaker and business consultant. My passion is to help people live with purpose and not waste their lives. I live in the UK with my wife, Temi and our gorgeous Isabel Juda. Let's connect on Twitter and Facebook.

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